Sorry everyone, it's been a while. With homecoming week going on, life has been pretty crazy.
Went to the homecoming dance last night. Believe it or not, this is the first dance that I ever went to with a group. I seem to be quite the loner. Somehow I got invited to go with a group this time, and I was really on the fence about whether or not to go. I am really close with half the kids in the group, and I don't really like the other half. It's nothing against them - our personalities just don't quite mesh
very well at all. Do I suck it up and go with the group to be with my friends or do I go myself to avoid the people I don't like? Obviously, I chose to go with the group. Did I make the right choice? Well, this one girl pretty much ruined the mood the whole night. She was complaining and angry at everyone and just acting ridiculous. But honestly, everything else went well overall. I got annoyed by the people I didn't like, but I was able to justify and overlook my frustration with the happiness that came from spending an evening with close friends. "I danced the night away." I laughed and was able to just be myself (and was told more than once that I looked slightly better than decent..
(: ). The night was worth it, even though I spent much of it with people I don't get along with.
So riddle me this: why do we deal with the people we hate? I guess it's because we love some people so much, that we're willing to do anything to be around them. We know that these people we love can cheer us even in our darkest moments, and we count on them to help us laugh at the insanity flying around us. And that, my readers, is what friends are for.
You make a very good point. And actually we often *can't* avoid people we might otherwise not associate with. At work, or socially, we end up interacting with all kinds of people, with different beliefs, assumptions, customs, etc. In large companies we often encounter people from other countries, who even when speaking English have odd ways of speaking. For instance, saying "no no" as a mannerism, as in just meaning "um" instead of really meaning "no." I think we can even learn more from people we would not normally "like" than those we naturally associate with, oddly. So in addition to taking the "bad" with the good (friends, work, etc.), maybe we can think of it as a broadening experience. (I find myself sometimes imagining I'm actually visiting a strange foreign land when I'm with people very different than I know, and make a point to observe the oddities going on as if I'm a research anthropologist :)
ReplyDeleteI'm quite the loner also :)
ReplyDeleteBut I pride myself on the fact..
Marcus, my love or detestation of being a loner changes with my mood. Sometimes it's great, but other times it hurts. It's always nice to be able to view someone as a fellow loner, though. (:
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